I love your website! I’m 35 years old and have one daughter, who has just turned nine. Even though corporal punishment is not that common in our part of the world, spanking is definitely part of the way I raise my daughter. The first spanking I remember getting myself as a girl was from my mom […]
The Spanking Mum: It’s not about you
I want to talk about the biggest falsehood that’s been sold to parents since the beginning of ‘progressive’ thinking about raising children. Namely, that it’s OK to spank in anger but a monstrous crime to calmly and methodically subject a child to corporal punishment. How often have you seen exchanges such as this one in […]
Mothers Talking: Elizabeth
Elizabeth lives in the rural northern midwest of the United States. She has four children, three girls and a boy. At the time of the interview all but the two younger girls had left home. One was 19, still in college but home for breaks, and the youngest girl was a 14-year-old high schooler. What […]
The Spanking Mum: The purpose of punishment
If spanking has fallen down the rat hole of social unacceptability, it’s true to say that the entire concept of punishment is in danger of going the same way. Much of the advice you will find online from child psychology ‘experts’ derides punishment as an outdated and/or misguided concept. Punishment, apparently, ‘does not work’. Except […]
The missing hairbrush
When my first born, Rebecca, was 12, she got in trouble one day. She had misbehaved at school, and she knew her backside was in deep trouble. I got home maybe half an hour after she did, had a quick discussion, then sent her to her room to wait for me. I decided the offence […]
The tiny mule
Kids each have their own personality. That seems obvious, but sometimes it’ll shock you. You raise them basically the same way. Same rules, same consequences, same attention, read them a lot of the same books etc. But even before they walk and talk, they start to be their own person. My oldest, Rebecca, was the […]
The Spanking Mum: A different kindness
You might reasonably think that using the words ‘kindness’ and ‘spanking’ in the same sentence is something of a non-sequitur. But this unlikely couple do, in fact, belong together. First, though, I want to talk about the difference between discipline and punishment. People will tell you they are not the same thing, which is sort […]